Does this sound familiar?
When you grow up you have to get a proper job
Are you making any money (at that strange thing that you do) yet?
People actually pay you for that?
Why don’t you get a proper job and stop worrying about money all the time?
You can’t make a living doing that, it’s not a proper job
When are you going to get a proper job?
I can’t tell you how many times this comes up in sessions with clients, when we’re working to uncover the hidden beliefs that are holding them back and sabotaging their success.
And even though consciously we might recognise this as past-its-sell-by-date thinking, it can still have a powerful emotional stranglehold on how we show up in our businesses and lives right now.
Plus, if you’re constantly wondering where the next client is coming from and not generating enough money to meet your bills every month, you might just be thinking to yourself “Perhaps they’re right. Maybe I should get a proper job”.
Which drives me crazy!
What is a proper job?
A proper job used to mean paid employment, job security pretty much guaranteed for life if you wanted it, with sick pay and other benefits and a nice reliable sum landing in your bank account at the end of the month. Oh and usually some kind of pension at the end to top up your income in old age.
What could be better than that?
Quite a lot, actually.
For a start everyone knows that job security is a thing of the past – the average adult can expect to change jobs (and even careers) multiple times over their working life, and jobs for life are few and far between.
And if you ask people whether their proper job lights them up and has them leaping out of bed in the morning raring to go, whether it nourishes their soul, the majority will say no, they’re working to pay the bills.
So what is a proper job now, given that the world has changed so much since that old definition held true?
It’s time for an update
(Of both the job description and our limiting beliefs around it – like ‘it has to be hard to be worthwhile’, ‘making money is a struggle’, ‘you shouldn’t be well paid for doing something that’s fun and easy for you’ – etc – plenty more to add here)
When this came up for my client, Wellbeing Coach Sue Baker, we delved a little deeper into what ‘a proper job’ meant to her.
Then we talked about a world where everyone is living and working in their own zone of genius, making a difference with their unique gifts and talents, and getting well paid for it. What would that look like? And what would a definition of ‘a proper job’ sound like in that world?
Here’s just a part of what Sue came up with.
Sue’s Proper Job Description
A Proper Job …
Allows you to shine and spread your light to everyone you come into contact with
Allows you to fulfil the purpose of your time here on earth
Allows you to be your authentic self
Allows you to be well paid for doing the work you love
Gives you a sustainable living
Makes your heart sing …..
(Thanks so much for sharing, Sue)
Yes, I want to live in a world like that!
I want to live in a world where no-one is forced back into work they hate just to pay the bills, because their inner gremlins have been holding them back from stepping up and getting their work out into the world and their support to the people who need it.
Where everyone is working in their zone of genius, knowing they have something priceless and unique to contribute and getting rewarded through their gifts.
How about you?
Take a close look at your own beliefs around what constitutes a ‘proper job’.
These are likely the beliefs you downloaded from your family of origin when you were very small, limiting beliefs that have been passed down through the generations, that are no longer relevant in the modern world, that may not make logical sense to you anymore, but that are often running in the background, hidden from conscious awareness and powerfully controlling how you show up in your life right now.
Shine the light of conscious awareness on those old beliefs.
Then rewrite your own empowering definition of what a proper job actually looks like in the life you want to create.
We love cross-fertilisation
Do share your new ‘proper’ job description with us in the Comments below and let’s inspire each other with our new versions.
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