Using work and ‘busy-ness’ to stuff down painful feelings is a common pattern and one I’ve struggled with personally for a long time, sometimes with catastrophic results. I wrote what I learned about this recently in ‘What 2 Months in Bed Taught Me’.
Juggling business commitments with crises at home
One of the most difficult aspects I found though, is one I believe you’ll relate to – those times when a crisis happens at home and you find yourself juggling business commitments and feeling torn between the two.
The lightning switch of roles
This often requires a lightning switch of roles, from concern for a family member and feeling tossed around on their emotional storms, to calm and grounded professional, 100% available to your clients.
At times I’ve found myself supporting a loved one in complete meltdown, and then grabbing the next 20-minute window to create a ‘video tap-along to experience more joy in your business‘. Which clearly left no space at all for me to process my own feelings.
The regular Tapping support I was getting was helpful, but a part of me was always on alert watching my Tapping practitioner to see if I could learn something new from the way they were using the tool.
This was a brilliant way of sabotaging as it meant that I never really allowed myself to ‘go there’ 100% and dive deep into the roots of the issue.
Something had to change
As ever, when my body eventually screamed at me, I had to listen. Something needed to change and radically, but what, how and with whom?
As the questions formed in my mind, an email landed in my inbox letting me know that Corrina Gordon-Barnes was offering her new Relationship Reset virtual retreat using ‘The Work’ of Byron Katie.
Here’s the thing I learned
I knew very little about The Work and it turns out that was a Really Great Thing.
I now appreciate the value of working with someone (who you trust implicitly of course) using a modality you’re not trained in or familiar with, because it means you must put yourself totally in their hands and trust them to hold a safe and loving space for you while you ‘go there’ without distraction and without holding back.
I can’t tell you the difference working with Corrina has made, not just to the way I show up in this relationship, but to the others involved too, and I’m hugely grateful for the opportunity to have experienced The Work with her.
Now over to you
Have you ever found yourself trapped in a Groundhog Day type of situation or relationship? Do you struggle to maintain perspective when things kick off at home or at work and you feel torn between the two? And what, if anything, have you found helpful in those situations? EFT Tapping is the primary tool I use with clients, but I’m well aware there are many other powerful ways to create change in our lives.
Do share your tips and experiences in the Comments below. We’d love to hear from you.
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