And keep you hiding out …
An Elephant, a Mouse and your success. Intimately connected.
Sounds really weird, doesn’t it? How could they limit your success?
Let me tell you a story
You want to promote a teleseminar, design a new programme, or finish the copy for a page on your website. You want to raise your profile and be more visible to the clients who need you.
You set aside a whole day to devote to it. You get up that morning raring to go, and after breakfast, a shower and your meditation or whatever daily Connection practice you use …
It’s time to get started
But hey, it’s such a lovely morning, you decide to go for a walk first.
When you get back, you check your emails (because there might be something urgent that needs a quick response, right?)
A mere hour or so later, after clicking through on all those great newsletters, watching the videos and registering for free teleseminars, you start feeling a bit peckish.
Guess what happens next …
Hmm, must be lunchtime
That’s ok, the day is young.
Clearing up after a spot of lunch, you can’t help noticing the smears on the kitchen windows – haven’t been cleaned in ages. Might as well do it now while you’ve got the time. While you’re at it, the fridge could do with a clearout too – there are some very sad looking vegetables that have been languishing in there for a while.
Mid-afternoon and you’re back at your desk
Time to get started. Just have to make a few phonecalls first.
One is to a potential client, who enrolls (hurray!!!). You spend the best part of an hour pulling together all the documents you need and composing a wonderfully personalised email to her.
It’s now late afternoon – OMG is that the time?!!!!
Too late to start anything now, soon be time for the school run. I’ll start tomorrow ….
And all the while there’s a thick grey fog hanging around on the edge of your awareness because yet again …
You’re NOT DOING that thing you set out to do!
Which means you’re still hiding out. Fear not though, it’s perfectly normal behaviour when you’re heading into new territory (outside the comfort zone).
Picture it like this:
Your Conscious mind (the part that intends to do whatever it is you intend to do) is like the little Mouse in this picture. It knows where it’s heading and (somewhat naively) believes the Elephant (your Subconscious mind) will travel in the same direction.
Elephant, on the other hand, is responsible for your safety and survival, and may have convincing evidence from past experience that it’s not safe for you to head in that direction. And Elephant is controlling 95% of your daily behaviour on automatic pilot.
Oh, and it’s true brilliance is coming up with a million different ways to steer you off-course and keep you hiding away.
Which is incredibly frustrating for Mouse 🙂
What can you do about it?
Talk to Elephant. Find out why it thinks this particular goal is not a good one.
Very often it’s looking at the situation from the perspective of a 6-yr old. Or its perception is distorted by a more recent trauma.
Giving it updated information is a great idea, but sometimes that’s not enough to have it feel safe to alter course.
Add a little Tapping to the mix to release it from the spell of the story it’s been telling and it will gladly start walking in the direction you want.
Over to you
So how about you, how do you know when your Elephant is in charge, what symptoms do you see in yourself? And how do you deal with them?
We’d love to know. Please share your insights and tips below.
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