If you’re anything like me, you’ll have times when you feel really frustrated with yourself – you know, like when you just can’t get your newsletter written and published on time?
Every time you sit down to write, those Little Voices start up in your head with the same crackly old recordings:
‘Who do you think you are? Who’s going to listen to you? You don’t have anything interesting to say. No-one’s going to read it anyway, why are you even bothering?’
All the usual old BS …
“Oh no” I hear you cry, “here we go again!”
“I’ll never be able to do this. I’m just useless! Why can’t I get myself to do this? Other people are doing it, I should be able to do it. What is WRONG with me? I can do anything when I put my mind to it – so why can’t I do this? There must be something wrong with me.”
It’s tempting to push the Little Voices away and say “Just shut up and leave me alone, I’m doing this anyway, whether you like it or not”.
Have you ever noticed how the harder you try to shut them up, the more strident and insistent they become?
It’s exhausting and if it goes on long enough, can easily turn into :
“I guess I’m not cut out for self-employment. I’m really tired of it all, I can’t be bothered anymore, it’s too hard. Maybe I should start looking for a job.”
What if there was another way to look at this?
What if, when a wave of self-doubt hits:
- It’s a sure sign that you’re on the right track?
- It means you’ve located the edge of your Comfort Zone, which is also the gateway to experiencing more of Who You Really Are?
- Everything you ever dreamed of and wanted for your business and your life is the other side of that gate?
- It means you’re about to grow (unless, of course, you allow all those critical Little Voices to stop you)?
Actually all the Voices have a positive intent. They’re a part of you and responsible for your survival, so if you seem to be trying to sack them, then of course they have to make even more noise to get your attention.
What if you stopped trying to sack them?
Given that they’re your Inner Team (and sorry folks, you can’t sack them even if you want to), why not treat them the way you would your Outer Team?
Give them some space, give them some respect, invite their in-put. Tell them you’re actually ready to listen, and then find out what they’re trying to get for you.
Most of them are under 6 years old
And desperately in need of a more adult perspective. Once you’ve heard them out, you can give them some new information, update them with some inspiring new beliefs.
Explain that you respond so much better to encouragement than criticism.
Then negotiate a more enjoyable, empowering way they could help you to move forward. They’ll be so grateful to you.
Add some EFT/Tapping to the mix and get them on board with your vision – you’ll be unstoppable when you do.
Heard any Little Voices lately?
What did you do with them? We’d love to know – please share in the Comments below.
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