I was in the dentist’s waiting-room with a friend who was desperate to get home and book a flight before the price quadrupled or the seats sold out. She was checking her phone and groaning every few minutes. The dentist was running late. I mean reeally late.
As the minutes ticked by, I felt her anxiety rising with each ‘What if?’ thought that occurred to her:
What if we have to wait another hour? What if the flight’s full when she finally gets online? What if she can’t travel with the person she wants to travel with? What if there’s still space, but it’s so expensive it’s beyond her reach?
I tried to concentrate on the book I was reading but the tension in my body was rising rapidly. I was catching her emotions and at some level felt compelled to worry too – as if that would somehow magically resolve the situation!
Suddenly, a new thought
Out of nowhere ‘What if I didn’t worry about it?’ popped into my head.
Can I do anything about the situation right now? No.
So what if I stopped worrying? Would it mean I don’t care? No!
What if I just read my book and let things take their course, which is exactly what they’re going to do anyway, whether I worry or not?
Aaaahhhh! Instant relief and relaxation of body, mind and spirit.
And another new one
If I could do that for someone else’s problems, what if I could do it for my own?
What if I just stopped worrying, especially in situations where there was nothing I could do to affect the outcome?
I’ve been experimenting with that new idea and finding it really useful, though like any new habit of thought, establishing it is a process and not always easy to maintain 🙂
EFT Tapping is my go-to tool in those all-consuming’ not wanting to let go of the worry’ moments. It helps me calm down and see the situation more clearly, so I can ask myself ‘can I do anything about this right now?’. If the answer is no, I tap to let it go for now.
How about you?
Do you stay cool, calm and collected when people around you are agitated or panicky, or do you come out in sympathy and start to vibrate at the same emotional (worry) frequency?
And if it’s a situation where you can’t take immediate action, are you able to let it go and stop worrying?
If you have any tips or techniques you use to remind yourself to come back to centre and relax, we’d love to hear them – leave us a note in the Comments below.
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