with Linda Anderson
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“Who do you think you are? You don’t know enough yet. Nobody will pay you for that. You’re such a fraud!”
These are the voices I heard in my head all the time when I started my business some 15 years ago, I was full of self-doubt and procrastinating all over the place. I just couldn’t get myself to do what was needed (more…)
(It’s ok, lots of people do!)
If the idea of getting ‘out there’ and telling people what you do makes you go weak at the knees, you’re not alone.
You arrive at the meeting trying to look confident and professional, but you feel like a vulnerable 6-year old in a room full of grown-ups who actually know what they’re doing.
You sit there in mounting terror as your turn to speak for 60 seconds comes around.
You find yourself keeping a low profile, spending a long time in the restroom or checking your phone and actively avoiding speaking to anyone for fear of being asked ‘So what do you do?’.
If you heave a huge sigh of relief when it’s all over and you can leave, and you wonder why you went in the first place because it never brings you any business anyway, here are a few practical steps you can take to make networking more effective – and more fun! (more…)
Being too shy to stand out and afraid of being criticised, or even worse being ‘trolled’, can totally block you from shining your light and attracting the clients you need to build a sustainable business. It often shows up big time on social media or when you’re giving a talk and it can be paralysing.
Are you in a ton of Facebook groups and just observing, rarely posting?
Have you been lurking in the shadows, reading other people’s posts, afraid to contribute because you’re not sure how you’ll be received?
Do you look at their posts and somehow feel ‘less than’?
Have you turned down speaking gigs because you’re just too scared to get up there and speak?
If that sounds like you, here’s a few tips for overcoming your fear. (more…)
By the time most of my clients come to me they already suspect something is holding them back from being more visible, whether online or offline, even though it’s clearly their time to shine.
Many of them justify their habit of hiding out with phrases like ‘I’m not ready yet’ or ‘I don’t know enough yet’ or ‘no-one will pay me for this’ or ‘……’ fill in the blank.
But for a few there’s something more subtle going on. There’s a part of them that does not feel safe to acknowledge their gifts … because that would mean standing out and shining. And ‘They’ wouldn’t like it! 
Using work and ‘busy-ness’ to stuff down painful feelings is a common pattern and one I’ve struggled with personally for a long time, sometimes with catastrophic results. I wrote what I learned about this recently in ‘What 2 Months in Bed Taught Me’.
One of the most difficult aspects I found though, is one I believe you’ll relate to – those times when a crisis happens at home and you find yourself juggling business commitments and feeling torn between the two. (more…)