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What if they don’t get results?

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And other self-doubts

I hear this a lot from clients launching new programmes or a high ticket package for the first time.

I’ve had the same self-doubt myself on occasion (who hasn’t?) and expect to again. For me it’s a sure sign I’m on a path to growth.

And there’s a lot of accompanying anxiety:

What if they don't get results? - self-doubts

Seriously, what if I don’t deliver?
What will they say about me?
Will they think I’m a fraud?
Will it mean I’m not good enough?
What if they think I’m useless? (more…)

Is This Really Normal?

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Self doubt (and its twin, shame)

It comes up constantly with clients though few will raise how it feels.

They’re passionate souls who want to make a difference and know they’re good at what they do, but OMG when it comes to writing about it, talking about it or (even worse) selling it, all kinds of Inner Gremlins tumble out of the woodwork to stop them, especially if they’re ready to take their business to the next level.

You probably know what I mean?

Those Little Voices in your head that say:

self doubt

  • Who do you think you are?
  • You’re such a fraud
  • You’re not good enough
  • You’re not ready yet
  • No-one will pay you for this
  • Who will listen to you?
  • Nobody wants this
  • They can’t afford it
  • This is never going to work
  • And … you can add to the list 🙂

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Fear of success – subtle saboteur

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Fear of failure is a common and natural companion to building a business around your gifts.

But what about the fear of success?

Really? Yep, you heard me right. It can be tricky to spot and is far more common than you might think.

Often it’s a fear that success will mean a lot of hard work and an overwhelming pressure to keep delivering results.

Or a fear we won’t have time for ourselves or the people that matter to us.

It comes in many different guises and in my work with clients I’ve noticed there’s a whole cluster of subtly different versions around one specific theme …

Emperor Penguin rejected by other Penguins - fear of success

“If I’m successful, they won’t like me!”

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Trouble getting your mojo back after a break?

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You’re not the only one!

MouseCircleBrightYou know how getting your business mojo back can be a real struggle after a break?

I’ve been hearing that a lot from clients recently – and experiencing it myself.

I don’t mean work as in sessions with clients because I know you absolutely LOVE that sort of work, that’s why you started your business in the first place. (more…)

Is That a Proper Job?

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Does this sound familiar?

When you grow up you have to get a proper job
Are you making any money (at that strange thing that you do) yet?
People actually pay you for that?
Why don’t you get a proper job and stop worrying about money all the time?
You can’t make a living doing that, it’s not a proper job
When are you going to get a proper job?

I can’t tell you how many times this comes up in sessions with clients, when we’re working to uncover the hidden beliefs that are holding them back and sabotaging their success.

A Proper Job - caged employeeAnd even though consciously we might recognise this as past-its-sell-by-date thinking, it (more…)